New Monday Feature: Would You Rather… Confrontation or Physical Pain?
- Posted by: Todd
- Posted on: Mon, January 28, 2008
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Just leave a short comment telling your choice, and why.
And if you have a good question you’d like to see featured here on “Would You Rather” please drop me an email at .
Have a great day!
Todd
Just for fun (and to get all of you 'lurkers' to actually give a comment here at MMI!), I thought we'd try a new feature called "Would you Rather?" It's really pretty simple... I'll give you two very different tasks and you tell me with one you'd rather do and why. Here's today's question. Would you rather confront your biggest critic about badmouthing you to your staff; or would you rather have a root canal? Confrontation or physical pain? Your call... which would you rather do?
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Homer on Mon, January 28, 2008
Root Canal. I know that both needs to be done to stop the pain but with a root canal at least teeh pain ends with the rest of the teeth don’t form opinions and power groups.
Following that point the tooth that receives medical attention doesn’t get on the grapvine and justify its side in the isue.
To quote Monk “ I couild be wrong, but i don’t think so.”
bishopdave on Mon, January 28, 2008
I had a few root canals, and they were not too painful and a lot more productive than confronting my staunchest critic. Last summer we had the showdown and despite witnesses and evidence, the critic denied everything. That’s more painful than physical pain. It doesn’t go away (though he finally did) and the root canal, after the pain stopped, has been a much better thing. Come to think of it, the critic leaving was a great blessing as much growth has happened after he left.
Tyler on Mon, January 28, 2008
Definitely confrontation. Even if the confrontation ends badly, that person already didn’t like you so it doesn’t matter that much. Plus…who likes the dentist?
Ps. I like the would you rather idea Todd. It was a game I played in college. Hopefully you draw the line with this better than my friends did. I’m sure you can imagine.
Richard Sharp on Mon, January 28, 2008
I guess I would agree with homer and say root canal. It solves the problem and has less of a chance to come back and effect others. I confronted (in private)a founding member of the church who publically did a character assianation against my wife to the children she had been ministring to for the past 6 months. The result, the board publically attacked me ( the pastor) for criticizing a founding member. Oh , how far from Christlike have we come. Backbitting and crictizing has become the norm in churches today.
Camey on Mon, January 28, 2008
Definitely like this addition. How about having a confrontation while your critic is getting the root canal? jk
Confrontation… I don’t have dental insurance..
Jon Naples on Mon, January 28, 2008
I would rather have the confrontation. it’s much more fun and less painful. Badmouthing is bad, no matter what the circumstances. People who badmouth must be confronted in a way which ensures that they never do it again. It brings down the integrity of the relationships. I am doubly lucky if the boss or pastor is upright and just and doesn’t fire me for setting a good example.
Brian on Mon, January 28, 2008
root canals aren’t really that painful these days
deaubry on Mon, January 28, 2008
i would rather have a root canal, i have had a few bad experances in church. once the women in the church wanted to have a saturday meetings just for women, it was oked by the pastor , the ladies wanted me and another lady to teach them, so we agreed, it was going very good for a few weeks, we encouraged the younger christians to try their wings , some wanted to teach, some to preach, some to pray for people, well it got around that the ladies was learning more from us than from the pastor, and all hell broke loose, three of the men from church went to the womens husbands and fathers and told them it was wrong for a woman to teach, and not to let them go back to the meeting, june and i went to church on that saturday and no one showed up, we waited for an hour and decided that somthing had to be very wrong , we finally found out what had happen, i went to the pastor and the other two men to confront them about it, they just told me it was none of my buisness what they do, and if i did not like it to just leave the church. well i did not say any more and i did not leave the church. but those people tried to ruin myself and the other lady, they told all kind of ungodely things about us to try to run us from the church. we finally left ,the church was in a mess people were leaving, it was no love there what so ever. it broke my heart but i could say nothing, the pastop blamed it all on me and the other lady, all of it started when someone said they was learning more from us than they was the pastor, what was so bad about that.
Jim on Mon, January 28, 2008
Definitely prefer the confrontation. The ROI for your time and pain investment is much higher.
pm68 on Mon, January 28, 2008
The older I get, the better I’m handling confrontation, but my tolerance for pain seems to have decreased. So, give me confrontation any day!
Dennis H. Wilson on Mon, January 28, 2008
While I do not like confrontation of any sort, I do not normally back away from it just because it is uncomfortable.
Just as the root canal is not comfortable, it is necessary for the overall well being of my physical health. So, is confronting someone who is guilty of “backbiting”, “gossiping” or “slander” etc. among the congregation.
If we ignore the bad tooth, it can lead to all sorts of other issues and if we ignore the person causing dissension in the body, it can lead to all sorts of problems.
Confronting someone about “sin” when it involves the congregation as a whole is critically important. I wish more leaders had the courage to do so, but also the wisdom to know how and when to apply in as Jesus would have done. Let’s face it, He did do this…remember cleansing the temple of money changers?
Nancy Lowry on Mon, January 28, 2008
I’m not sure if this is the proper place to leave this comment…but I think you all should know that there’s an ad in “Church Staffing” that has been in for about two weeks. The ad is for a worship minister position and the church is “Jesus Metropolitan Community Church” in Indianapolis Indiana. They are part of the “Metropolitan Community Church”...denomination (I guess you call it a denomination). They are openly gay/lesbian and proudly push the gay agenda. On their website they have sidebars such as “Same sex relationships in the Bible” etc. I’ve written a couple of times to Church staffing..but the ad is still in there. I keep thinking..“Whoever applies for this job and gets the interview is going to be soooooo surprised.” The ad sounds good….
All you have to do is look at the website..and then go look at the website for the bigger group of Metropolitan churches.
Beth G. Sanders on Mon, January 28, 2008
Oh gimme the root canal — please!
I hate confrontation and the last root canal I had was actually pleasant, thanks to nitrous oxide.
And ... the root canal usually works. You get rid of the infection and after a brief period of healing, you are better than new.
Confrontation ... in my experience is often just the pain with little or none of the gain.
As the old psychiatrist joke goes, “the light bulb has to WANT to change.”
karen on Mon, January 28, 2008
Oooh… can I have nitrous oxide and choose confrontation?
Camey on Mon, January 28, 2008
Karen,
Now that was funny.
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