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A Pastor’s Perspective on Rumors

Orginally published on Monday, April 10, 2006 at 9:00 AM
by Todd Rhoades

RumorsPerry Noble once again hits the mark... don't let rumors distract you from your joy and ministry.  Perry writes:

Any pastor of a church will tell you that he takes what people say about the church personally. Let me say this up front--one of the DUMBEST things you can ever say to a pastor is, "Now I have some things to share with you...and don't take this personally..." That is equal to saying, "Hey dude--your baby is ugly...don't take that personally!!!"

And, this goes without saying, anything said about me...well...I take that personally as well.

AND...the enemy knows this--and that is why he attacks my joy through rumors. We've heard it all--there was the one about the new building having a statue of me in it--there was the one about us not allowing Bible's into our service--there is also the one about us NOT letting people join our church unless they show us their W2's and/or last years tax return. (I am NOT making this up--these have been quoted back to me by several sources!)

And there have been rumors about me as well...one of my favorites of all time is when I nearly died back in July--that all of that was merely a set up and that none of it actually happened! (WOW--I'm a great actor!!!)

But the latest one...wow...this one takes the cake. I was informed yesterday that there is talk in the community about our lead team...and how in staff meetings all of us drink and get drunk every single Monday! Once again...I am NOT making this up!

People, when I heard this I have to be honest...I REALLY wanted to track down the source and explain to them that alcohol has not touched my lips since 1989...and NO--we do NOT drink in staff meetings!!! (Except for large amounts of coffee!)

This rumor was particularly offensive to me because of my previous struggles with alcohol. I battled it and I overcame my addiction--and for someone to begin to throw things around set me on fire with anger that rarely comes to the surface!!!

BUT--I realized what this is...a tool of the enemy trying to tear me down and get me unfocused. So when I heard this, after thinking about it for several minutes I decided, "Oh no you don't--you have gotten me before...BUT NOT NOW!" I refuse to allow the enemy to steal my joy!

One thing you need to understand is that there will always be stupid people in the world! (That's right--I said stupid--I meant it...anyone who spreads rumors or tells what they have heard and begins to tear apart the character of a particular person OR particular group of people is a stupid person!) And you can't allow the enemy to use them to tear you down.

If you are in the ministry you have GOT to understand--people spread rumors about the Apostle Paul...they said things that were not true about Jesus--but that didn't slow either of them down. If they had spent all their time battling rumors then do you think they would have actually gotten any ministry accomplished?

I don't have time to battle rumors...and neither do you! Don't let things that people say about you steal your joy. If you are doing something right then others WILL say things that are untrue...deal with it...and get over it...and let Christ shine through you!

The enemy IS coming after your joy--look back over your life and you will see his pattern. Identify it and then don't let him do it again--remember that Scripture tells us that the God who lives IN us rules OVER him!!!

Perry Noble is the Senior Pastor of NewSpring Church in Anderson, SC.  You can read more of his thoughts at his daily blog at PerryNoble.com.


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  • Posted by

    There was once a rumor going around that the staff of our church was trying to turn us all into Satan worshipers because they used incense in one particular service!  It would be funny if it wasn’t so sad.  I’ve often wondered if rumors like that start out by people deliberately lying or by people who are idly speculating, which turns into “stated fact”.

  • Posted by

    [one of my favorites of all time is when I nearly died back in July]

    Perry is dead… I found this out by listening to my Beatles’ records backwards!

    wink

  • Posted by

    Thank you Todd for Posting this. This has really helped me to get into focus and realize that satan is the father of lies and he is the biggest liar there is. This is something I have struggled with in the past is rumors about me. It seems I start out doing well in handling them, then all at once it is like Job, everything starts piling up all at once.

    But here lately it seems that I am either growing in Christ or just getting cold and cyncical. But I am like, “Talk to the Hand.”, “Don’t get in my grill because I just don’t care about your 2 bit opinion,” or “Whatever”. Like Perry said rumors are stupid and the people who start them are very unlearned and uneducated as well.”

    As a matter of fact: I am getting ready to start a study on the ENEMY this week. It seems I have been studying about Jesus His Love for us and everything else in between. But as I look back on it I can see where there has been very little taught to me about the enemy. This thought came to me because of where I was in the Army. We always study about our ENEMIES more than we did anything else.

    I believe we as a church have failed to tell people about this to our people and that is why people struggle with rumors about them more than anything.

    I close by saying this. While I was in Korea in 93-94. The Lord began too use me in a mighty way.People who had quit going to church started back, people who where not saved accepted and so on. I spent a lot of my time at the Chapel studying, watching TBN Ministers preach and so forth.

    There was a girl who was working with the Chaplain there. She was the wife of a Soldier. Before any of us knew it. They brought accusations against me that we where committing adultery. I laughed at their lies. No one else did. Come to find out the reason they said that was because they themselves where married, went to church every Sunday, and they where down town with the ladies of the evening. They had all of us under survellince and found out they had lied on me.

  • Posted by

    Godd morning.  Hope everyones week was great.

    There is a spirit of accusation that exist in many churches.  The way I dealt with this in Oregon was to nip it in the bud, whatever that means.  Whenever a person in the church would talk to me and say something that sounded like gossip or a rumor, I would tell them that what they were saying was not edifying. 

    I know the enemy will try to use rumors to steal our joy and we have to decide not to allow him to rob us, but at the same time, we need to let people know we’re not going to allow rumors in the church either.

    My thoughts.

    Ed.

  • Posted by

    [Whenever a person in the church would talk to me and say something that sounded like gossip or a rumor, I would tell them that what they were saying was not edifying.]
    Good tip, Ed!

  • Posted by

    My first thought when I read this was Yikes, that is a tough church! Yes rumors will always be around. They are some of the best tools of the enemy. But light, the light of Christ always shows them for wehat they are. People will believe them because they want to, even the outragious ones. One quick way of killing the rumor is to close the loop. Go to the source and connect them with the target, and you soon see the lie.

    Some people just like to spread the rumors, and if I do not react it loses its appeal. I like Paul’s stance I am not here to please those around me, but the one who has called me.

  • Posted by

    [One thing you need to understand is that there will always be stupid people in the world! (That’s right--I said stupid--I meant it...anyone who spreads rumors or tells what they have heard and begins to tear apart the character of a particular person OR particular group of people is a stupid person!) And you can’t allow the enemy to use them to tear you down.

    I don’t have time to battle rumors...and neither do you! Don’t let things that people say about you steal your joy. If you are doing something right then others WILL say things that are untrue...deal with it...and get over it...and let Christ shine through you!]

    Ouch and I’ve been accussed of not being edifying.

    If you don’t “have time to battle rumors” why bother writing the note and calling people stupid.

    Why not go directly to the source as the Bible says and speak of their offense with them?  Making it public like you are only magnifies the issue not only in them but in yourself.

  • Posted by Perry

    BeHim,

    I think you may have missed the point of my post.  The thesis behind my writing was not to focus on the rumors, but rather the fact that I used to allow them to steal my joy....and now I have recognized that the enemy used those things to get me off track. 

    And as far as going to the source...uh, obviously you have never have the privilge of doing ministry in the South--by the time they get back to me they are well circulated within our community...and I don’t have the time to go and track these people down!

  • Posted by Paul Davis

    It is sad when mere lies spread to artificially take down a ministry.  It is also sad when the truth is spread around and people ignore it.

  • Posted by

    Great post!  We all need this reminder. Someone said that you are either being Jesus or the Devil with every word you speak.

    Proverbs 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death,…

    We all have to deal with the stupid things people say.  It amazes me that the disciples said, “Increase our faith” when they were told how many times they needed to forgive.

    You are right about the devil stealing our Joy.  But how do you just let it go?  “Let it go Linda,” is something I hear often from God.  “Press on Perry.” More are those who are with you than against you!!!!!

  • Posted by Paul Davis

    I wonder, does Phelps consider those spreading rumors about him ‘stupid’ as well?

  • Posted by

    Most of them remind me of a bull goat we had on the farm. Was always getting tangled up on purpose so they’d have a reason to BUTT YOU. BAAAA.

  • Posted by

    Acts 2:12 Amazed and perplexed, they asked one another, “What does this mean?”
    13Some, however, made fun of them and said, “They have had too much wine.

    You are in good company because the disciples were accused of the same thing.
    Every team playing for a win has an opposing team.  All the roadblocks you talked about are designed as attack.  We have to expect opposition.  It can be fierce.  The angels in heaven must be watching like you guys watching your favorite team.  Only they know the outcome, you win!!!!

    Romans 15:2 Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. 3For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written:  “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me. “[a] 4For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.

  • Posted by

    My husband is one of many pastors at our church and when we came 5 years ago the pastor and the elders were working to change the direction our church was headed.  As a result they were fodder for vicious lies and rumors (y’now like they were male chauvinists like the Apostle Paul because of their view on women teaching in the church) They knew they were stepping in front of a speeding train but the church survived and so did they.  I take very seriously my role as an encourager and supporter of my husband especially when he is faced with attacks that are not true.  One thing I found that really helped was whenever someone came to me with a, “Did you know...” I would ALWAYS answer, “Wow, it sounds like you have a real issue with Pastor John and you need to talk to him about that.  I call him today and tell him to expect you. And y’now what, let’s pray right now that God’s will would be done in this situation.  You start and I’ll close.” Then I shut my eyes and bow my head.  After the long awkward pause the person usually mumbles something that ends with Amen and I take the opportunity to pray for our pastors and their encouragement in front of that person.  My method is pretty fail proof.  Gossipers beware.

  • Posted by

    When a Godly woman serves in her role in the family is a wonderful thing in deed.

    Thank you for sharing PuritanMommy.

  • Posted by

    Actually “stupid people” sounded rather tame—how about “snakes, vipers and white washed sepulchers full of dead men’s bones!” My bad, sorry.... wink

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