Orginally published on Sunday, May 20, 2007 at 7:10 AM
by Earl Creps
We had several surprises during a recent interview at Starbucks with “Katie” and “Josh” (twentysomething siblings). During an unplanned discussion comparing Gen X with the burgeoning popularity of Gen Y, for example, Katie described her cohort in these stark words: “we’re not likeable.” I probably surprised her with my comment that a lot of Boomers I’ve met (not all) would agree with that assessment, and that we are in general planning on “skipping” X’ers from here on out to concentrate on Millennials. Our conversation careened into another subject from there. Katie described three spiritual subcultures she has observed in age group (her own) that has witnessed the “dark side of church”...
1. Hokey Christians: These believers are heavily invested in the pop culture side of conservative evangelicalism and can be spotted easily at the mall wearing “Jesus” T-shirts featuring logos borrowed from the Sopranos or Reece’s Pieces. For Katie and Josh, this subculture regards Jesus as a “homeboy,” but lives the faith out cartoon-style, heavy on affectations, lite on the substance.
2. Bitter Christians: Harmed by the misuse of authority in local congregations, these disciples have just seen too much. Pain and disappointment have led them to declare a sort of spiritual free agency. Still devoted to Jesus, they recoil at the way the Church becomes a vehicle for the exercise of personal power. To this person, the idea of a purpose-driven life seems like just another infomercial.
3. Non-Christians: These young adults will “consider themselves spiritual,” but have minimal interest in what evangelicals have to offer. Their preference for the open architecture of compound spiritualities (those formed by personal choice from a menu of options) seems to immunize them against our standard Sunday morning offering. Katie noted that, “you can’t reach them with anything like church.” In contrast, she recalled a backyard pig roast (which Jan and I attended) that used the simple grace of hospitality to pack the place with her unbelieving neighbors.
These subcultures are fairly well-known to all of us. But then came another surprise: Josh commented that his friends may live in all three subcultural envelopes at different times (or perhaps simultaneously), moving through them like phases. They start with that “church camp feeling,” but drift toward the unbelieving end, and then may drift back again.
I concluded from Josh’s observation that at least some young adult spirituality is less of a static state of mind and more of a more of a floating experience of faith.
Some of this trait is doubtless a product of the pre-adult life phase, but that doesn’t change the responsibilities of Christian leaders to connect with them. The three subcultures Katie and Josh described are not destinations; they are pit stops which may be visited and revisited over and over. This kind of spiritual journey does not fit neatly into our programs and events.
It is inconvenient. And the temptation for leaders will be to focus mainly on those whose faith (or lack of it) fits more efficiently into our ministry molds, or to use power on the inconvenient until they assume the shape that we desire.
Katie asked the defining question in this regard: “We are kind of like a cross between doubting Thomas and Judas. We may betray you…We are not sure we believe…We are not sure we believe you…but will you accept us?”
About the Author: Earl Creps has spent several years visiting congregations that are attempting to engage emerging culture. He directs doctoral studies for the Assemblies of God Theological Seminary in Springfield, Missouri (http://www.agts.edu). Earl and his wife Janet have pastored three churches, one Boomer, one Builder, and one GenX. He speaks, trains, and consults with ministries around the country. Earl’s book, Off-Road Disciplines: Spiritual Adventures of Missional Leaders, was published by Jossey-Bass/Leadership Network in 2006. Connect with Earl at http://www.earlcreps.com .
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“We are kind of like a cross between doubting Thomas and Judas. We may betray you…We are not sure we believe…We are not sure we believe you…but will you accept us?”
Isn’t that what we all want...acceptance? We need to reach out to all...the challenge of this age group is to meet them where they are...wherever that may be...to respect others and all they are thinking and experiencing...to connect.
It might be a challenge to be creative, but attempting to fit into a mold doesn’t work. We can’t take “the easy way out”
I’m learning more from your interview style than its results, Earl. What I mean to say is this. When you take the time to be honest and vulnerable and really listen… You can make friends… with ANYONE.
That’s what it’s all about.
Hokey, Bitter, and Non.........
I can think of a multitude of Boomers who fit those exact descriptors--adjusted for style, of course.
I found the insight on “Hokey Christians” eye-opening considering all that is said about trying to be relevant to the culture. It puts that need to be relevant in perspective.
Peter--I agree with your comment about being honest, vulnerable and to listen--perfectly said! I wrote a post about Vulnerability back in January...and it’s still one of the top posts...think that says a lot! Connections are so important!
Wow. Maybe it’s just the “phase” I’m in, but a few things about this article bothered me. I’ll limit the thoughtful rant to just one item: sometimes the whole “ministry models” talk troubles me.
I understand it’s smart to be smart about ministry, but it reminds me too much of the marketing department at your average corporation. For example, at my place of work, the marketing analysts try to understand the the group of people we try to attract to our products, the customers. They’ll throw different advertising campaigns at these customers--or a particular group of customers they’ve had trouble reaching--hoping that something will connect with them. Sound familiar? Of course, and of course this comparison is sounding familiar too. But it isn’t the words “advertising”, “campaign” or “marketing” that I’m focusing on in this example, but rather the word “them.”
They are them. We are we. So, since they are not we, we don’t really know them. What ministry model will reach them?
Maybe it’s just me, but church and ministry life very easily disconnect me from the world of people--not my church family of course, but the other people, y’know, them. After years of that separation from people in the world--from the life in the world, life the them’s live--it shouldn’t be surprising when we’ve got to strain to figure out how to reach them. Them being the people we’ve viewed in their separate them groups.
I want to be closer to them, so that I can call them we, not them. Heck, I know I responded to Jesus when Christians made me a part of their lives, not when they appealed to my lifestyle, interests, or emotions.
Seems like this summation of Christian culture is just more judging a book by its cover.
How do we know that because a person wears a T-shirt that blatantly declares their association with Christ that everything about their life with Christ must be a facade, empty and without real meaning?
On the second group (bitter Christians) mentioned, I think almost every person that has attended church for any amount of time has been hurt, rejected or criticizee in an unfair (or maybe even fair) manner by someone in the church. It stings, we want to leave and sometimes we do. I did for years. But God drew me back and that has made me more sensitive to remember that no one ever has it all together, no one looks exactly right on the outside and snap judgements and quick words should be shelved in church. People too often mistake the way Christian people treat them with the way Jesus sees them or generalizes the whole church based on a person or a few people.
And #3 is almost a “well duh”. The majority of people do not get saved on a Sunday morning but at some other time while socializing with a Christian friend. That is why it is so important we don’t seal ourselves in a Christian bubble. As a church, we need to constantly do things to help the community around us so we aren’t just a self serving bunch of holy rollers. GO and make disciples. Jesus didn’t say, start a group, invite friends to it and leave it up to only the group leaders to actually mention me.
I think young adults are looking for truth. If we live truth and speak truth, they will find it. If we set up programs and pander to them instead of truly basing our lives and our churches around Christ, then they will keep looking.
Well said, P!
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