Ed Stetzer writes, “Finding a starting point for a Christ-sharing conversation is not easy. Maybe you’ve heard before: ‘So, do you consider yourself a good person? Yes, well I’ve got some bad news…’ ‘Nice to meet you, Stephen. Did you know that there was a guy in the Bible who was stoned to death for his beliefs about Jesus? What do you believe about Jesus?’ ‘If you were to die tonight...’ You can follow the Way of the Master method and remind people they are hypocrites, liars, thieves, and adulterers in the first two minutes and bring up the “lake of fire” in the third. I can’t resist watching Kirk Cameron because it’s, well, just so intense to see Mike Seaver “bring it”: see here, here, and here…
Yes it’s not subtle, but it gets the point across (watch some of the responses, particularly the last one when crazy lost people “strike back").
Others suggest you meet a felt need and build around people’s wants. But, take it too far and soon you’re “selling Jesus” as the way to happiness and your best life now, like those irritating people who say their magnetic bracelets can make you live to “143 years young.”
Sharing Christ can be a challenge in our culture today. It often seems like we’ve become the guy at the front of the supermarket peddling a newspaper subscription—the one everyone avoids. There are always challenges that come with the opportunities. But how do you deal with these challenges? Part of it is finding a starting point.
In Acts 17, Paul started with the people’s religious views and philosophies. In Acts 13 he started with Jewish history, and in Acts 14 he started with nature. Where we start depends on where we live and who we encounter. Where we go is settled—it’s where Christ died and rose victoriously over death.
For decades we have approached people with evangelistic/diagnostic questions such as, “If you were to die today, do you know for sure where you’d spend eternity?” and “If God asked, ‘Why should I let you into heaven?’ what would you say?” Useful as these questions are, they may not be the best approach in every situation. That’s where it requires spiritual discernment and relational sensitivity on our part. Results from a recent study where I work may give us some useful insights about Americans’ thinking and concerns about spiritual matters.
1 Peter 3:9 reminds us to “always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect” (NIV). That implies some questions and answers—questions from people we encounter in culture and answers from God and His Word.
I assumed that the only people asking the “heaven question” were about to go off to war or enter the ER. But the results show, somewhat surprisingly, that many people today wonder about their eternal destiny. One out of every five respondents wonder daily about the certainty of going to heaven; 13 percent think about it weekly; 12 percent monthly; and 9 percent consider it at least once a year. Less than half (44 percent) indicated they never think about eternal destiny
Another approach (perhaps more common in the Purpose Driven world) is to ask about meaning and purpose—important issues for which the gospel provides answers. We asked people how often they think about how to find more meaning and purpose in life. Almost one-third think about it daily; 17 percent weekly; 13 percent monthly; and 10 percent at least yearly. Only about one of every four of respondents (26 percent) said they never think about meaning or purpose in life.
Regardless of these factors, we must find ways that start where people are and then takes them to where they need to be. Jesus modeled it when He started talking about water but then presented the Samaritan woman with living water (John 4:10). He claimed He was the light of the world as He healed the man who was born blind (John 9:5). And after feeding the 5,000, Jesus cautioned the people about working for food that perishes, encouraging them to seek the food which endures to eternal life (John 6:27). Jesus, as we would assume, mastered the ability to access the immediate environment in order to present himself as their personal Savior.
Yes, scripture shows that we share Christ, starting with people’s understanding, interests, and needs. But we cannot and must not end there, for their needs can only really be met (whether they realize it or not) by meeting Jesus.
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So… how do YOU approach this?
Todd, is something missing from this post?
sorry for the previous post....i couldnt see anything from the post but the first paragraph but as soon as i responded, the rest of it showed up....
as for my approach, i really try to be led by the Spirit because while everyone needs to know Christ, each person you meet might be different...for example, i had a kid tell me she was an atheist and did not believe one word of the Bible so trying to start with the 10 Commandments with her could get a bit rocky...yet i dont believe in leaving out the Word in any context because God honors His Word whether people believe it or not...lifting Jesus up in word and deed (John 12:32) mattered...one day before she left, she came to me in tears and said “I just wanna know Him”....i was stunned...the reason for her turnaround?...she saw the JOY and PEACE other believers had and wanted to know the One who gave what she knew she did not have....she prayed to receive Christ a week and a half ago…
but i have other friends who have heard the 10 commandments approach (which is a good one, btw) but are not moved by it...my boss was a hardcore atheist and examining the gospels as the Holy Spirit convicted him of his sin led to his conversion....bottom line, we are responsible to preach the gospel but should not trip over methods so long as our message is consistent and faithful to the Word...sometimes i feel like if we get too attached to one particular method, we can easily forget the work of the Holy Spirit in salvation...Jesus knew where to meet people and then took them places they never expected to go...may we be faithful to proclaim him…
[In Acts 17, Paul started with the people’s religious views and philosophies. In Acts 13 he started with Jewish history, and in Acts 14 he started with nature.]
EXACTLY, being prepared in-season and out-of-season means that you are ready to share the Gospel IN THE CULTURAL CONTEXT of the hearers. How do you do this? I think Paul did it, under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, by being part of that community enough to understand what to say first. If he had started with nature in Acts 13 and with Jewish history in Acts 17, he might perhaps have “gotten it wrong.”
Unfortunately, many believe their method is the “only way” for all hearers and for all situations. Nonsense. For instance, confrontational “where-are-you-going-when-you-die” questions may, in some contexts, have their place. Not in any I frequent though.
I was visiting a church member in the hospital once, when she told me that her roommate had almost died the night before and would I be willing to talk with her. I introduced myself to her, and we chatted a bit just getting to know a little more about each other. I had been trained in Evangelism Explosion where you usually ask (as Ed mentioned in his article), “If you were to die today, do you know for certain that you would go to be with God in heaven?” Instead I asked her, “If you had died last night, do you know if you would have gone to be with God in heaven?” It opened up a deeper conversation and an opportunity to share the gospel. We need to be flexible in our approach and sensitive to where people are at. I like what Ed said in paragraph 5: “Where we start depends on where we live and who we encounter. Where we go is settled—it’s where Christ died and rose victoriously over death.”
I agree that we need to be sensitive to the context of the circumstances in how we enter into a conversation about salvation.
I’ve used the 10 Commandments deal, as well as others.
One thing I had to disagree with in the article, though. He says:
“To share Christ, we have to go beyond formulas that fit on napkins. The Gospel is not a doodle. Isn’t God’s story of redemption and reconciliation for His creation bigger than what can fit on a napkin?”
In my opinion and experience, so many people think that getting to heaven is incredibly complicated - they feel they have to go through just the right rituals, have just the right lifestyle, grasp the right kind of theology, etc. “Napkin” presentations are a great way to boil it down to the essentials: Sin separates us from God, Jesus makes it possible for us to be forgiven and united with Him - on earth and for eternity.
I’ve led many people to Christ by drawing out the Bridge Illustration (courtesy of the Navigators and modified by many, including Bill Hybels), and one of the most frequent comments I hear is “that is the most clear and understandable way I’ve ever seen to explain this.”
I think I understand Mr. Stetzer’s concern, and I agree with it. The idea of redemption is too big to simply be a formula. In fact, it’s beyond what we will be able to comprehend on earth, and maybe even in heaven.
But we still need to be able to present the gospel in a concise manner, telling them just what they need to know in order to cross the line of faith (Hybel’s term) in Christ.
I was thrilled by the graph showing that one in five think daily about where they’re going to spend eternity. This would probably be those fields that are ripe for harvest!
Brian
I have a few thoughts on this subject. First I try to think about introducing people to Jesus, my savior, friend and God not think about a certain set of facts that will guarantee your ticket into heaven. It is hard to not shift into information mode since most people think of the Gospel as a basic set of facts. The Gospel is Jesus Christ who died rose and conquered death. Too often we reduce the Gospel merely to information about Jesus.
Secondly, I ask. I decided long ago that instead of worrying about what I don’t know (how people would respond) I would ask permission to tell people. To this day, I have asked thousands of people permission and never once has anyone told me no. I am also not being clever. I do not ask, Can I tell you about the most amazing relationship ever? Can I tell you how to live forever?… I simply say, Can I ask you a couple questions about your faith? Can I ask you if you have a church background? I put together a list of over 100 questions I use to open doors and build bridges.
I invite. I ask people if they would like to begin a friendship with Christ. When they say yes we pray together, when they say no I ask them would it be okay if we talked about this again sometime. Again I have never been told no.
Every Sunday we worship Jesus with excitement and joy. It is almost (smiley face here) as though we love him and are excited to be in his presence together. We then open the Bible, teach the word with clarity in the language of our culture. This past week was 1 Corinthians 10. At the end of the service I asked, it is possible you may not know this Jesus we are so excited about. If you would like to… 4 people prayed to receive Christ. Happens every week and every week people pray to receive Christ. 34 in the last 7 weeks and over 200 in the last 2.5 years. Why, because we invite and our invitation is a reflection of the invitation of God. We partner with the Holy Spirit and extend the invitation. I think we have gotten far too clever in our presentations.
Finally, I expect people to say yes. I know not everyone does but the truth is my Jesus is so amazing and awesome, I expect people to say yes. I expect when the word of God goes out for lives to be changed. Our church expects it too. Too many people start defensively, expecting an argument, expecting rejection, expecting someone to say no and never be my friend again. This defensiveness often comes from a negative expectation. By the way, I never miss an opportunity to talk about sin, repentance, the cross and complete trust in Christ that causes a person to surrender and follow him. Not because it is the Gospel but because it is the only fitting response to such a great God.
Leonard,
Thanks again for your perspective.
My respect for you continues to grow.
Brian
And to add to all that wonderful truth and wisdom, it sounds simplistic, but always being ready to give an answer about the hope that lies within you, is key.
This is so ingrained in me that whenever I meet someone, my very first thought is “Does this person know Jesus? How can I reach them? What are their needs? Is there something I can help them with that will speak Jesus to them?”
I used to think that all Christians lived like this. But I realize they don’t. But I think they should.
I offhandly made a remark about living life this way, in a speaking session and was amazed at the response and questions I received following my talk. I really thought that most believers had a handle on this!
Leonard, thanks for the insights. Your conversational approach is, I think, quite healthy.
I would add that as long as we think Christianity is about going to heaven when you die, it’s not even worth talking about it. Not to diss the ‘4 spiritual laws’ or the ‘bridge diagram’, but Christianity is about nothing less than New Creation, God putting the world to rights at long last, and this is only secondarily about post-mortem life. The story of the Creator calling a people to reveal him to the world is a long story, and probably can’t be told in one sitting. So we have to be comfortable taking it one piece at a time. The content of individual conversations will have to be determined ‘on the fly’ by the guidance of the Spirit. There will be a time for basic exposition (this is what we believe, this is how we are called to live, etc.), there will be a time for warning (’the wage of sin is death’, etc.), and there will be a time for silence (e.g. if you’re being teasingly provoked, barking out arguments for the resurrection may only hurt your witness--again, it all depends on the context).
But I would argue that the most convincing argument for the truth of Christianity, and consequently the thing that is most likely to ‘convert’ people, is a faithful community witness. When the Church is what the Church is supposed to be (the brotherhood of saints, the community under God’s sovereign rule, a manifestation of the Kingdom, a non-violent commune where there is no one in material need, etc.), and when the conversations of individuals flow out of that communal identity, then ‘evangelism’ is in its proper context and it can bear the most fruit.
My two cents,
-Daniel-
Kirk Cameron versus Billy Graham:
The timing of this article is uncanny. I just got an email last night from a family who had come to our newcomers class a month or so ago. She indicated that while she appreciated the warm, friendly atmosphere of our church, they had joined another church.
She went on to explain that they came to our Newcomer’s Class and had problems with the way the gospel was presented in the Billy Graham tract. They went on to explain that the tract did not present the Gospel the way Jesus did and thus was “not biblical.”
She recommended that I read Kirk Cameron’s book “The Way of the Master” because it shares the Gospel the way Jesus did. They had just been through an 8 week course on it and were now excited about sharing their faith. They were still very encouraging and pleased about our church, but this is a bit off.
While I am thrilled that they are plugged in to a church and sharing their faith..... Billy Graham not biblical? Should we call Billy Graham and get him to rethink his “Steps to Peace” tract? I don’t think so. Anyone encouraging and training people to share their faith is fantastic. But there is no one-size fits all method for sharing your faith. I am certain Kirk Cameron did not intend people to feel this way...but it is unfortunate.
Anybody have more insight on his ministry here? Is this a resource you would recommend or steer away from? Thoughts.
I try to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit as I listen to the person with whom I am speaking, I am just glad that their are a lot of others sharing their faith it is a real encouragement. I have listened to some CD’s by Ray Comfort and the “Way of the Master” and he doesn’t seem to put to much emphasis on answering peoples questions [I have learned a lot from the Way of the Master, good things] But shouldn’t we be ready to answer peoples questions and not ignore them ? also is it me or are there more and more Atheist around these days, how do you get around long discussions about evolution and if there really is a God and get right to the meat of the Gospel with someone that you briefly meet? Have any of you had any success going door to door witnessing? I guess I am in “learning Mode” today, Thanks
Leonard - thanks for the post. Your comments were personnally helpful. Todd - thanks for starting the conversation. The whole discussion is good.
I’m a big fan of having multiple tools in the tool box. I love Bill Hybels “Walk Across the Room” book. I think as long as the gospel is shared with transparency, honesty and genuine concern it shows and people appreciate it. It’s when we share it out of guilt, judgment or arrogance that we get into trouble and I think harm the good name of Jesus.
We must all remember that we are responsible to the Lord to preach HIS Gospel message and not our “version” of it. If we are faithful to do that then we can expect the same reactions from the hearers that Jesus, John the Baptist, Paul, Peter, John, as well as all the prophets of the Old Testament received. I think that too many times we try to soft sell the message so that people will like us or like Jesus. Jesus never did this. He was nearly thrown from a cliff for telling people about their sins. I am not saying that we go out to intentionally offend people to the point of wrath but we must not compromise the message.
Ray and Kirk’s ministry has brought back the biblical method of using the Law to expose to the proud heart that their sins are against God and grace to the humble heart. I have used this biblical method for the last 4 years and I have seen the effect it has on the proud and humble heart. We must always remember that it is God’s job to save them and our job to tell them. The parable of the sower shows us that roughly only 25% of the time does it fall on good ground and that ground must be prepared by the Law because no one can deny the conscience.
Christopher writes [Ray and Kirk’s ministry has brought back the biblical method of using the Law to expose to the proud heart that their sins are against God and grace to the humble heart. ] Chris, all due respect. It is certainly A biblical method, but is it the only method that is ever used to tell the story of the Gospel? Scripture is clear that it is not.
If the parable of the sower is to be used as a measurement then only a stupid farmer expects 25% of his sowing to be fruitful. A smart farmer would aim much higher. The 25% is not a biblical number in as much as there are 4 descriptions. Be careful not to turn that parable into a measuring stick for fruitful ministry. Wise farmers (sowers) work the soil long before the seeds enter in order to insure more fruit.
Romans 2:4 reminds us not to think to little of or take to lightly the kindness or goodness of God since it is his kindness that draws us to repent. I think you can speak about heaven, hell, sin, judgment, righteousness, death to self and the likes very well without offending the majority of people.
To measure fruitfulness by the offenses we cause with the Gospel is not healthy. To measure fruitfulness by the lives changed is healthy. To avoid all offenses at all cost is not healthy. To wear them as a badge of commitment is not healthy. I am not sure of the fruitfulness of WOTM. I have watched people whose hearts were open to a conversation about God be harmed unnecessarily by the approach. Some people Jesus simply forgave. When a method wears as a badge of honor the verses about offense and blames consistently the offended people as not being humble, I might be suspicious about the method. Once I recall Jesus clicking off the commandments as a way to open the door, he also healed, forgave, fed people, spoke about the kingdom, raised the dead, ate with sinners…
What I see Jesus doing in the Gospels was as follows. Jesus often saw soil that could support a growing fruitful seed and recognized that soil was filled with rocks of doubt and pressure. He could see the soil was overrun with weeds of fear and greed or pride. He would then love and care for people in such a way as to remove the rocks and weeds before planting the seed. For me, sharing Christ is always about pulling weeds and planting seeds.
Peter,
Can you give an example?
Chris.
matt 4: 18-21. Jesus calls Simon and Andrew. Just says “Come Follow Me”. Do they know about the message of “Repent and turn to God?” Yes, it’s been preached in their area, But Jesus isn’t recorded as repeating it yet again here.
Matt 8: 1-4, Jesus heals the man with leprosy, and there is no recorded words calling the man to repentance. No doubt this man is also already aware of that message, as so many are today. (Throughout Matthew, Jesus is recorded as healing person after person without referring to the necessity of repentance.)
My favorite is John 4, where Jesus gives nothing but the “good” part of the good news for quite a while in the conversation, until about half-way through. he does not start the same way that Kirk and Ray insist he must, and it is still effective. (Once again, I never said the WOTM method wasn’t biblical, only that it is not the ONLY biblical method.)
In Acts 8, Philip’s encounter with the Ethiopian eunuch does not record a specific mention of repentance being preached. Again, no doubt, the eunuch already knew about this. It may have either came up in conversation or not, but the conversation STARTS with a “common ground” discussion of the passage the eunuch is reading.
Paul often talks about repentance in the middle of or at the END of the message… and my point again is, he finds common ground as a starting point, respecting the person he’s speaking to, and in some cases even quoting their own pagan poets (kinda like quoting a song by a current musical artist, isn’t it...)
Am I saying the Gospel is complete without the message of repentance? I am not. I am saying, again, that perhaps WOTM’s method is not the ONLY viable biblical method.
And now I go to celebrate a RARE Sunday off…
Blessings,
Peter
Leonard,
I am in complete agreement with you regarding the parable of the sower.
The parable is not about amounts of good soil that is available. It is about the different types of ground and what the results are.
The only mention of “amounts” is the amount of fruitfulness that can be had in the lives of those who are “good soil.”
Stewart, I’m just finishing Hybel’s book and I love it! It was also a great affirmation of what I wish all Christians would grasp - that we are to be involved in helping people find Christ.
Brian
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