Steve
I can relate hugely-- I too did a church plant, (CMA) I came in after the church planter left, so the church plant had already morphed into a “church”.  That being said, while I agree that the ‘pastor” teaches (right things) and helps facilitate followers to follow and the like, I am troubled with the whole shepherd flock ideal.  While I am not into the pastor as a CEO either, I think the pastor gig is way out of whack.  But that is for another day.  I feel your anquish.  I too went through the same thing.  Only I left, headed into corporate world, enjoy leading a Saturday night thing and teaching High school kids on Sunday mornings.  Without training leaders to catch the “right” vision of leadership and the role of the pastor we the church continue to grow very dysfunctional people that cry for food that they really can get.  When I was in the pit over the past 3 years I had no one helping me to get nourishment-- I was empty-- but God had a purpose and still does… frankly some of the most needy people need to recognize that this life is brutal and that Jesus won’t fix every thing… He will help and guide and develop character and that is painful and for those that have ears to hear… they will.  Again, with just head stuff, there are many many of the “flock” getting through life with simple head stuff, but when the time to grow comes they cry out for something to fill them up, while all along Jesus says that “He is the Bread of Life” “He is the Living water” All the stuff the people want He is. 
Peace man.
Don

No problem with your input-- except-- all those that follow Christ by faith have the spirit to illumin them-- which means its time for “some” if not most to spend time in the Word and with the Word period.  Not just a five minute devotion either… go get into the Word and the Living Word.  The Scriptures will speak for themselves-- there is no doubt that “we” in ministry have enabled some to be very “baby like” indeed.  If you took away all the “preachers” and teachers what?  Christianity folds up and goes away?  No-- it is time for “some” if not the majority to get involved, read and seek and go and do.
Peace and Merry Christmas

This doesn’t make any sense to me. Why are you complaining that your flock wants to be fed? Isn’t that your job? Let me ask you a question. Do you digging deep into the Word of God and to learn? If so, then why not teach that to your flock? Why keep it to yourself?...seems selfish to me which isn’t a sign of Christian charity. If you are not digging deep into the Word of God, then shouldn’t you start doing so or get a different job? If you feel that you are digging deep into the Word and are sharing that with your flock, then ask them what they mean when they state that they are not getting fed. Maybe you as the pastor have no idea what it really means to feed your flock. However, according to your own account you seem to know what it means for your own flock to dig deep into the Word you demand your flock to dig deep into the Word. Your flock probably does study their Bibles, but they need for you to either confirm what they studied or correct their misgivings by what you teach on Sunday morning.

To say that mature Christians know and understand everything about the bible that they need to know implies that they have somehow graduated and don’t actually need to go to church anymore to hear the word.

I think the “cry” that needs to be “combated” is not that we want it all done for us. We just don’t want it dumbed down for the sake of the lost that we might reach, or that if we make the service any deeper, we’ll “scare people away.”

It’s like school.  Would a proper teacher spend classroom time showing TV shows and tell the students they’re responsible for reading the textbooks on their own time, only ever briefly touching on the material?

Church has become a place where I am not welcome anymore, where I’m shoved to the side (or even shown the door) for the sake of the “unchurched.”

We just had this exact criticism from someone in our church last week.  They wrote a letter to our senior pastor saying there was no meat, and that the people needed to be fed and taken deeper.

His response as he met with the letter writer was that as pastor he needs to shepherd the flock.  There are two kinds of sheep that need to be fed:  young ones and sick ones.  For the rest, his job is to lead them to pastures where they can feed themselves.