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Where Do You Get Your Trusted Feedback?
Orginally published on Wednesday, February 27, 2008 at 8:32 AM
by Todd Rhoades
In his post this morning, Craig Groeschel says that leaders become successful partly because they listen to the wisdom of others. But as the leader becomes more and more successful, before long, those same leaders might think one of three things of other people's wisdom and advice: 1. These people don't know what they're talking about; 2. Who do they think they are to be telling me how to do stuff? and 3. They are out of touch. His premise is this: the higher a leader rises (the more successful he/she gets), the harder it is to get really good, valuable, trusted feedback...
Have you found this to be the case? Is the tendency of your leadership to question other people’s wisdom? And where do you get most of your trusted feedback?
(Maybe another question… what does it take for someone to earn your trust?)_
Todd
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Posted by Peter Hamm
Wednesday, February 27, 2008 at 9:56 AM
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Posted by Camey
Thursday, February 28, 2008 at 8:10 AM
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Thursday, February 28, 2008 at 10:56 PM
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Posted by Andy Wood
Friday, February 29, 2008 at 10:09 AM
Post Your Comments:I’ve got a handful of people who KNOW what they speak of who give me REALLY good feedback. It’s hard to take from them sometimes, but when they tell me it’s good, I know it’s REALLY good.
I also have a handful of people who give me VERY useless feedback. I smile and nod and listen, because there is, despite my difficulty in seeing it, often some really good nuggets of wisdom in the middle of all of the… not so useful nuggets…
I get my feedback from a variety of sources. Having been a lay leader and then in vocational ministry, has tremendous benefits. I don’t want individuals who are just “Yes, Camey” providing the feedback. That to me is useless. If I wanted that I would call it “feedin.” Sort of like a “lovein"…
Some of the individuals I have really come to trust over the years, live nowhere close to G-town, Texas. I think that’s just as necessary.
I trust people who, first and foremost, love God and love me. The people I tend to give my ear, are the people who “know my heart.” They are looking out for the best interest of the Kingdom… (and, well...also me.) There are a lot of people who want to “speak the truth” but not in love. (1 Cor 13:1-7)
Useful, wise feedback for me comes from the intersection of three components:
1. The individual knows me. They have discernment, sensntivity, and awareness of who and how I am. That typically doesn’t change that much over time - unless, of course, I’m allowing my “success” to turn me into a jerk.
2. The invididual knows God. That, too, has a timeless and circumstance-free quality about it. I have a couple of “Level 1” people who I may not talk to for months at a time, but I completely trust them, and when my back is to the wall, I call them. I’ve never been disappointed. (Hint: they don’t attend my church).
3. The individual knows the level of my church/business. That is where the wisdom can vary. The dynamics of a small, rural church are completely different than a high-paced suburban church. My son’s church - struggling in a declining neighbornood - has a completely different set of needs than my friend’s church - multi-million-dollar budget, soon to double their existing space. Both need wisdom. But there is something to be said for getting it from different sources.
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