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Why Young Pastors Leave the Ministry

Orginally published on Tuesday, November 01, 2005 at 8:00 AM
by Todd Rhoades

This post comes from the NakedReligion blog… I find the ten reasons that he came up with to be quite intriguing.  See what you think…

There is an epidemic occurring right under the nose of church middle judicatories and no one seems to notice. Young pastors (less than five years in the ministry) are leaving in droves. The Lilly Foundation has poured millions of dollars into ?Sustaining Pastoral Ministry? initiatives and it?s too soon to tell whether or not their approach is working. Aside from the obvious reasons pastors leave the ministry (sexual impropriety, financial mismanagement, and marital dissolution) here are the top ten reasons why young pastors call it quits:

1. The discontinuity between what they imagined ministry to be and what it actually is is too great.

2. A life without weekends sucks.

3. The pay is too low (most pastors in my denomination make less money than a school teacher with five years experience).

4. They are tired of driving ten year old cars while their congregations trade in their cars every two years.

5. Many young pastors are called into difficult congregations that chew pastors up and spit them out because experienced pastors know better.

6. Even though the search committee told them they wanted to reach young people, they didn?t really mean it.

7. When the pastor asked the search committee if they were an ?emergent church?, the members of the search committee thought he said ?divergent church? and agreed.

8. Nobody told the young pastor that cleaning the toilets was part of the job description.

9. The young pastor?s student loans came due and the amount of money he/she owes on a monthly basis exceeds his/her income.

10. Working at McDonalds has alot less stress.

Why do you think young pastors are leaving in the ministry in droves?


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  • Posted by Henry Judy

    Boy that is great stuff. I know this is a real problem. However one of the reasons may be the seriousness of ones call. I am not questioning anyone’s call but Spurgeon said it best in “Lectures To My Students” He said if you can do anything else beside preach go do it.

    Now having said that I know that it is rough out there but I believe when God calls he provides and sustains. God never gives us more than we can handle. Sounds “Churchy” but with all the problems in churches with the people and stuff, when ONE person comes to Jesus it is all worth it.

    Or as one person said “Being a pastor would be great if it was not for the people.”

    Later
    Henry

  • Posted by

    All 10 are true, some way more so than others.  Plus how the church chews up a pastor’s family in the process...forget it.

  • Posted by

    In addition to my previous comment: sorry spurgeon, but I’m not hip to your thoughts on pastoring.  It is quite possible that as pastors we can do nothing else, but in is also quite likely that young pastors are experiencing the maturation of evangelicalism and it’s overshadowing of apostolic christianity; therefore, what you have are young pastors who get it even more than the old school guys that have invested themselves in evangelicalism...and us young snots aren’t going to invest in an institution that we recognize...along with everyone else, is bunk!

  • Posted by

    Interesting. I expected more profound answers than what was on the top ten. I think one of the biggest reasons can be lack of mentorship. The older teaching the younger type of mentorship. Although certain styles of preaching and guiding a congregation may be a bit different, there are still some core foundational things, I believe, remain the same.

  • Posted by Gary

    One of the biggest disappointments in working full-time in a church staff position is loneliness. The staffer has no one to talk to, confide in, or in many cases, simply bounce ideas off. If you confide in a member, you might as well post your problems online. If you confide in another staffer or board member, you’re labeled either a “trouble-maker” or a liability and your job is in jeopardy. Same goes for your family. Too few churches actually build “community” among their members. If it doesn’t start with the staff, how can they expect to facilitate that sense of community among the congregants and neighbors?

  • Posted by

    Hey, it’s not just pastors.  It’s all kinds of ministers leaving.  I believe church as we know it and have known it for the past 30 years is on its way out.  I believe God’s people are ready and hungry for something fresh and new, but they don’t know how to go about it.  And they are brainwashed by this older generation who say crazy things like, “If you don’t attend Sunday night church you don’t love Jesus enough.” Not true!  Ministers are leaving because they see there’s more to this Christianity thing than what is currently going on.  In addition, if you try to change things for the truth, the traditional folks who have left God’s Word and taken on their traditions as truth will just vote you out anyway, because you’re trying the remove the hymnal or something.  There’s more to Christianity than what we’re doing, and I believe ministers are tired of being suffocated by tradition.

  • Posted by

    I agree with kev.  We get into this to make a difference.  We really do want to feed the sick, poor, widows and etc.  And yet the church seems stricken by buildings, programs and stuff that doesn’t really meet the needs of society today.  I don’t mind not making money.  It’d be nice to do something that does.  But it’s not a motivating force for me.  I want to make a difference and unfortunately most churches don’t.
    scotty

  • Posted by

    I’m sorry, but it just sounds like whining to me.  If you don’t like it/can’t handle it...then by all means, go do something else!  After you work for a while in a chicken processing plant or a foundry, factory, etc. whatever, then tell me how tough it is for you.(Actually, just suck it up and do whatever you’re supposed to.)

    Yes, all those 10 things are true.  And I could give you 10-20 more.

    II Timothy 1:11-12--”...I am appointed a preacher...for which cause I also suffer these things...”

    Life’s not fair, having no weekends sucks, etc., etc.  If Jesus was not exempt from suffering, why do you think you should be?

  • Posted by

    Yeah a lot of them leave.  Few of the people I knew in Bible College are in full time ministry.  Also, not being married (at least in our denomination) doesn’t help.  I think one of the biggest is finances.  Churches want educated people but never pay them what they are worth or even enough to pay for their education.  It’s all dissapointing…

  • Posted by Jeremy Harrison

    What struck me the strongest was #6. Our full-time youth pastor just left the ministry and he was FANTASTIC.

    Few churches are willing to back up their desire for young people with a budget to support the effort. Not only a programming budget, but the budget they need to attract and keep talented people.

    Yes this is ministry, but leaders employed in full-time ministry should be well compensated for good work, just like any other profession.

  • Posted by

    I agree with Gary.  It is the petty stuff that kills you.  I have been in fulltime ministry for over 10 years and am tired of fighting committees on things that do not really matter.  Every one wants their say in the mundane business that can be handled in a few minutes by the staff, but the important stuff is ignored. 

    I have heard for over three years in this church how much we need to visit and disciple.  Restarted both the last couple of months and only a handfull engage.

    I want to make a difference but it seems most just want statis quo.

  • Posted by

    Chuck,
    I wonder how many people in your congregation come to you for that second counseling appointment. I bet, very very few. Try speaking the truth in love. If you don’t like this criticism then take your own advise.

  • Posted by

    Expectations.  Unrealistic and unfulfilled.  I have been a pastor for 18 years now, I almost got out after 4, then 6, and on and on…

    I think that this problem is too sided. It is easy to reflect on the problems of the church and the unspiritual people of the church; and set the blame there.  I agree with many of the reasons listed in the top ten list, but there is two-sides to most of them. 

    I find many pastors today, bring their share of unspirituality to the table. We look for quick success, easy converts, and we want ministry to fit our lifestyles and time tables. When that meets up with congregations with the same attitudes, all falls apart when our expectations are not met. 

    We are used to putting a dollar in a machine and getting a Coke.  When we invest our dollar and don’t get what we expect, we are easily discouraged, frustrated, and angered by it all. 

    Added to this there is not readily available mature pastors and leaders to help younger pastors to navigate through this rough waters.  The expectation for success in the church today, success by world standards even, hurts us all.  Does the bible really point us to pastor like this?

  • Posted by

    Well, if you haven’t experienced it, you can’t possibly understand.  I lasted far more than just 5 years, but after more than 15 years, my wife (now ex-wife) of 17 years decided she was tired of being a minister’s wife and decided it was more fun to have a boyfriend and start going out drinking with the deacon’s wives.  This is true!!!  Now, the problem I have is this:  Why does that seem to make me “finished” in the ministry?  It seems that just because I have been through a divorce, even though it wasn’t my decision, I’m no longer usable within the church, unless I just want to volunteer.  I find it interesting that as long as I’m not being paid, it’s fine.  Otherwise, “God doesn’t like divorce” so I can’t get paid for what I’m called to do. 
    Personally, I believe it all goes back to money.  Churches are greedy, poor money managers that don’t understand the pressure they place on their staff.  They want 24 hour work for 2 hour pay.  Enough is enough, and I believe that God will soon make His displeasure very clear to the churches.  The other obvious problem is that most (yes, the majority) of church members are not Christians.  They have NOT had an encounter with the same Jesus I met almost 32 years ago.  If so, they wouldn’t act like they do.

  • Posted by

    “For I have learned the secret of contentment...” (Paul)

    I agree that all 10 are real issues involved in the drop out rate…

    Unfortunately these are all symptoms of the disease.  Call it evangelicalism or institutionalism or whatever...but even that is just a symptom.

    That what kind of car I’m driving compared to the members is a reason for my dropping out says that I have the same disease they do.  So don’t try to make it into a young vs. old thing! Or modern vs. PM or traditional vs. emergent.  WE ARE ALL THE SAME.  OUR TRAPPINGS LOOK DIFFERENT IN EACH GENERATION.  BUT UNLESS YOU ALLOW GOD TO DEAL WITH THE SELFISH AMBITION AND PRIDE UNBELIEF IN YOUR HEART YOU WILL BURN OUT AND FALL OUT.  PERIOD.

    I have found that what keeps me in ministry is NOT learning to compromise with a dinosaur system, but love for God and people.  I make beans.  I’m unknown.  This is the gift of obscurity.  in this world you are considered successful if you can do something noteworthy enough to make people pause and look at you and make much of you. 

    Most young pastors are disillusioned not just by a decaying system, but by underlying heart motives that get exposed as they fight “the system”.

    Only those who find themselves deeply rooted in Christ can hack it.  Those who are still dominated by modern or postmodern or other lower goals and values, will likely become disillusioned.

    I think his top ten reasons are symptomatic of the great problem.  And if any of us could find the church that gets all ten right, our heart motives would still be wrong and God would have to use some other set of difficulties to humble us and show us our real need!

    But most guys just don’t get it.

    Happy in the midst of obscure ministry,

    Pastor Dane

  • Posted by

    You know evrytime there is a blog about a real problem someone always jumps up and really tics me off. You always have that one person who says things like"suck it up” or “go work in a chicken plant” blah, blah blah. I hope you dont approach your congregation that way. These are real issues for real people. Quit comparing it to what one of the apostles went thru. I dont remeber the apostles answering to a chucrh board. I know Jesus suffered. HE also changed the world. Are you.

  • Posted by

    It has been my experience that one of the root reasons young pastors leave the ministry is the fact that seminaries and colleges have not prepared them for the ministry. This is not a blame issue. It is a complex, ever-changing dynamic of community and the church.

    Sometimes young pastors arrive with core values that are not emergent...and then come up against the non-emergent core values of a church. Then both sets of core values have a habit of emerging with force! Sometimes it is root theological differences or preferences that they have brought to the core of the church and in their immaturity, have thought the church would change.

    I find that when we bring only Jesus to the core of our day, our week, our ministry...we are far more effective change-agents than we ever thought we could be. And there is little or no division! Encourage young pastors to fear God for it will lead to right decisions and wisdom. Encourage them to know God for in knowing the Most High, there is understanding. And most of all, encourage them!

  • Posted by

    I have been a pastor for over 20 years.  I kind of came into it sideways—I worked in construction, volunteered in the church, and was asked to come on full time in order to use my gifts more effectively.  Eventually I was able to start a church with some others and grew it to 2000 +.  I now work in a smaller church trying to help a team of people reach a community that doesn’t give a rip about going to church.  And herein lies what I think is the major problem.  The institutional church is marginalized—Christendom is dead—and it doesn’t know it.  I know a number of young pastors who recognize this and are ready to do anything else knowing that they will probably have more affect in the community than they would if they stayed in the institution.  Churches do chew up, and spit out any young man or woman who does not see maintaining the institution as the chief goal (no matter what they say, this is largely the case).  This fact eventually crushes the idealism of young people in ministry, and the pressure to maintain the institution with little pay, time to grow personally along with the futility that comes from knowing that the 80% of people who see the church as irrelevant aren’t being reached . . . can’t blame them for leaving.  My only hope is that as they abandon the institution, that they will move into the community and devote themselves to taking to a broken world the only message that rally matters.  As for me, I am ready to join the young people on their way out. The institution isn’t worth saving, but the message is.

  • Posted by tlange

    I think one could list several reasons for younger pastors leaving the ministry, but a couple that I came up with after reading the article are

    1) Working for a micro-manager - the younger staff member is working for a control freak and someone who does not trust anyone.

    2) Superiors do not delegate - delegation is a big word in leadership and management.  Some people think that delegation is to give tasks to others that are undesirable or menial in nature. 

    3) Unreasonable expectations - the younger pastor has unreasonable expectations of the position

    4) Broken promises - the younger pastor is promised several things and the senior pastor fails to deliver.  Don’t make promises you can’t keep.

    My thoughts on a controversial subject, especially since I am studying for the ministry!

  • Posted by

    I must agree with Chuck.  Many young pastors have an unrealistic view of what it is to be a pastor.  As far as the financial thing, may be it is all about the huge school dept, credit card debt, car payment, and payment for the latest and greatest video games or plasma TV.  Yes the pay isn’t as good as it could be but tell that to the guy who has a business degree and is now assistant manager in a fast food place.  In my area of the country ( Iowa-Minnesota) the pay in churches is not low at all, only low in very small churches under 100.  Go try working at $10.00 per hour doing hard physical labor and then come back to the church.

  • Posted by tony

    Loved it!  I think seminaries are doing a terrible job on preparing guys for ministry.  They need to know how to LEAD and how to TRANSITION people into their God given vision for the church.  It is a rude awaking when a pastor finds out he is the only one in the building who want to GROW.  This is a little tough, but could it be that many think they are called by God, but they later find out they were called by dad, mom, or their self?

  • Posted by

    Religious institutions are “falling way short” of “reality ministry”.  Too much “love boat” philosophy.  Church members, as God’s people have always been, have pre-determined what they will do and whom they will allow to “follow them” instead of the pastor actually being in the “lead ministry”. 
    It is the responsibility of the leaders and instructors of religious institutions to equip young ministers for the “battle” that lies ahead.  This “warfare” is going to be both from “within the army” as well as without.  This is “one” reason for dropping out.
    Another possible reason would be the “younger” minister may have the “I’ve arrived” attitude and everything you’ve believed prior to my arrival is now obselete.  There may indeed be some things that need to change; however, these changes cannot be expected to take place over a short span and they certainly will never take place if the minister has a “developed attitude” concerning the “enlightenment” of their own philosophies.  This is “another reason”.
    Finally, in a “church society” that has rapidly become so easily impressed with fads, religious trends and worship imaginations, the truly called minister may find themselves standing in the midst of a people who are Christian only by name and are more impressed by “themselves” and “their image of themselves” verses how God actually sees them to be; consequently, the Bible Believing and Bible preaching minister will easily “tire” of hearing “we will not follow, we will not walk” in that path any longer.
    As a minister of 23+ years, much has changed that should have remained and much as remained that should have changed.  God’s Word is our balance and without that Word we’re doomed to failure and retreat instead of Victory and a continual Onward and Steady March.

  • Posted by

    I think at least three of these are the same (#3, #4, #9).  Money is an issue for many pastors.  The solution there is to teach stewardship.  The more money the church takes in, the more they typically will pay.  And most churches do see the need to increase salaries as the church brings in more money. 

    To me, the reality hits hardest with #1.  The discontinuity between what they imagined ministry to be verses what it really is.

    The problem may lie with the pastor, who felt like he could work one or two days a week and tell people what to do along the way.  Only to find out that the board or the elders or the committee was actually the ones giving orders.

    It could just be the mindset of the church of America that operates under the premise of “we have started this and set it in motion now don’t change it”.  Any young pastor comes in with ideals only to have them crushed by the status quo of “we never have done it that way before” or “we always have done it this way.” They give up fighting and find somewhere else to work and worship!

  • Posted by Carl

    I’ve just started and have the doe eyed starry look into the ministry. I realize it can be and is rough, but I think sometimes we need to fall on the Holy Spirit, who refreshes us and ever-fills our lives...as hard as it might seem, doing it on our own, in which we may not even realize we are doing it on our own strength, and not leaning on the Lord for the victory.
    I will continue to pray for all those warriors who are in the ministry. The Lord still answers prayers.

    In His Grip,

    Carl

  • Posted by Tim Hatch

    Man, this stuff is good.  I believe this much is true - our job is hard and we must expect that.  Eternal rewards is what we must focus on while balancing that with a down-to-earth approach about salary and job expectations.  Communicate what you need and desire to continue in the ministry from those in position to make it happen.  The worst that can happen is that they say “get lost” - and that might be your best advise to take.  Churches that underpay will always get less qualified people - and they will remain small and visionless.  Young men and women in the ministry must pick themselves up - get on with life - and remember that at the end of the day - no one is going to make sure you retire well and your family is taken care of - that is your responsibility.  This may sound selfish - but i believe it’s realistic.  Find other work, find a new church, or take some time off.  But whatever you do - do your best with what you have, where you are.  You don’t have to have the title or position of “Pastor” to be a minister.  While I did secular work as a Pastor part time - i found it more stimulating and exciting working everyday with unsaved people.  In fact, the secular job market needs men and women who have such strong convictions.  Pastor those people - they are the ones who need it.  Jesus was called to the sick - and so we must go to them too.

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