Orginally published on Thursday, March 08, 2007 at 6:01 AM
by Jim Mueller
An anxious bride, working through her to-do list, calls your church asking for a wedding date. "Is June 9th available? How do we get married at your church?" In the next few minutes, you have the chance to capture ó or lose ó a huge opportunity. An opportunity? Another wedding... an opportunity? The pre-marriage process begins with that first phone call. Consider this: That phone call may be a bride's first connection with a church. Of course all that's on her mind is that wedding date. But if you're strategic, you have a chance to influence and impact two lives.
If you or your receptionists are screening queries, with questions like, “Do you attend our church? Are you members? Are you Christians? Are you living together?ó If you are pre-qualifying those wedding calls and rejecting the callers, you’re missing the opportunity.
Remember, an un-churched couple won’t give you the right answers. Many brides are shopping churches looking for a friendly, accepting voice. Don’t intimidate; don’t judge. Give them some grace.
So, what is the opportunity? It’s not about building your attendance numbers. Instead think:
Relationship: Through authenticity and honesty, you can mentor this couple to a stronger relationship and a brighter future.
Vision Casting: What might your future look like if God were involved? What if you both were on the same page spiritually? What if you trusted God with this...?
Evangelism: You have a captive audience. The mentoring environment is the optimal setting for spiritual discovery. Not only are couples ready for relational vulnerability; they are ready to do spiritual business as well.
Changed Lives: In a setting of acceptance, encouragement, and trust, you have an opportunity to model a God-driven marriage and help shape a new future.
Legacy: Your impact on this couple can inspire them, their children, and future generations.
Job Satisfaction: You’ll love this!
Next week we’ll explore the next step in the pre-marriage process: How to Introduce Biblical Marriage Principles.
FOR DISCUSSION: How do you handle the calls that ask “Will You Marry Me?”
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