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Would You Rather… You Stink or That’s Gross
Orginally published on Sunday, February 03, 2008 at 5:00 PM
by Todd Rhoades
Last week, we started a new series called "Would You Rather"... and it seemed to go over pretty well. You can check out last week's question here... It was about a 50/50 split between confronting your worst church antagonizer or getting a root canal. This week's question is this: Which would you rather do? Tell one of your worship team singer (who is a big tither, by the way) that they won't be able to sing on the team anymore because... well, they can't sing; or would you rather drink a half dozen raw eggs? (As you can tell... this is more for fun than any scientific research). I'd love to hear your answer and comments...
Leave your comment below.
And also, I’d love for you to send me a recommended “Would You Rather” question for next week…
Have a great week!
Todd
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Post Your Comments:if your church is large enough to justify it, you can have a worship choir that sings once a month or so, in addition to the team of background singers. that way the people who aren’t really good enough for the team still have a place they can sing where they can do less damage.
Well, I was called to a church where there were about three folks that did “special music” whenever it suited them. I was often told at the last minute. Once upon a time they were good...before I came. So I instituted a policy that the worship services had to have one theme...music and sermon had to match. I also led the church to adopt a policy that any special music had to be approved by the worship leader in advance [so don’t bring your boom box or guitar and say, “The Holy Spirit led me to sing..."].
I believe in nipping things in the bud...and have had to go to someone and ask, “Have you noticed a change in your voice lately?”
I learned that when one has to confront a “tither” - grace and love goes a long way and should the “big tither leave” God graciously provides three or four new little “tithers” in their place.
These “would you rathers” are fun, but eventually the “hard thing to do” will have to be done. To let bad things continue to spare feelings, prevent tantrums or avoid a scene leads to low morale in the future for you and others on your team, not to mention resentment toward the source of this low morale. I say deal with it now and get it over with with an eye toward making policy to prevent similar future scenarios. Then cook up those eggs in a nice mushroom omlette!
Bring on the eggs. For the singer, that is. I really enjoyed Todd’s post last week about not being satisfied with 80%. We need to strive to give our best—and for some giving their best is not singing in the praise band.
Re the Andy Griffith episode: In the end, Barney found out what they were doing. The moral of the episode was, basically, that truth spoken in love is the better way to go about things, and that deceit even with good motivations is capable of blowing up spectacularly.
Be careful, cautious, and take your time in this. Many worship leaders in church walk in and try to “fix” everything in this department right away, everybody gets mad at them, they get mad and hurt, they get burned out, and they move on. Often within the span of months rather than years.
I waited over TWO YEARS after I got on board in this church to do this. For the longest time I thought I was waiting way too long, but I’ve gotten feedback from many folks that I waited just long enough.
Be patient.
Also, the person who sings horribly with one person might sing wonderfully with someone else… so mix it up!
No one should deliberately be mean to another person, but IMO telling someone they cannot sing well when they want to do so in front of others is not mean. It is kind and saves them from eventual embarrassment.
One way we avoid such calamity is to not only have auditions but to also give temporary assignments. 2-3 month trials, 2 week trials etc. This keeps people from being too settled to remove.
bob that is fun-nee
Been there...Done than....learned the following lesson.
Hello’s should take a long time and goodbye’s should be quick!
In otherwords it has to take a long time (2 mos in my system) to be evaluated as a vocalist and when you cut someone you have to do it quickly....like ripping off a bandaid.
I’m a worship pastor and we have auditions, and when someone gets past the audition we tell them that the first 90 days are a trial period. Any time during the first 90 days I could give them the boot, or they could quit. I always ask them at the auditions, “If this doesn’t work out, can we still agree to be friends?” This kind of prepares them for the fact that they may not “make it”. I’ve had to ask several singers to step down during this evaluation period and only a few have left angry.
As for the eggs, no thanks. Deal with the issue. Lead strongly.
My question is… how do you can someone that can’t sing when you have inherited someone elses church and now have to deal with bad worship leading? Also how do you use someone when it is all you have until someone better comes along and then you say… great now someone that is good is here, you can leave. WOW. That just seems rude.
Two words,
salmanella poisoning
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